Outbursts of anger. How to help the kids (and parents) to calm down?



Anger is a healthy and normal way of expressing feelings, to the point where the children because of their high level of frustration, wants harm themselves and the others or acts an aggressive way – then it is necessary to calm down. And how to do that in the most appropriate way?
With the child’s rage (throwing on the floor, screaming, kicking, biting, aggressive behavior …) the parents can not bear easily. Besides being in such a situation, parents need to remain calm and help the child to calm down.

Why is there a outbursts of anger?

Outbursts of anger may appear for several reasons. Some children in general are less psychologically resistant and more difficult tolerates low levels of frustration, Also, the children who are very sensible may feel the anger more intense, and then react more intensively. Outbursts of anger may occur more frequently at children, that in everyday life often get stopped in this to express anger and then in fact do not express that frustration out, but remains in them and in the moments when he can no longer be controlled, may have outburst of anger from the accumulated frustration, Additional reason is today’s rhythm of life, in which some children spend a large part of day in kindergarten, schools and various additional activities and sometimes only a small part of the day spend with their parents. This can further create a sense of helplessness to the children and more difficulties to tolerates frustration, that will result with disconsolate crying, aggressive behavior other inappropriate ways of expressing anger and it is difficult for parents to remain calm and composed.

At what age some children have outbursts of anger?

The outbursts of anger may occur throughout the entire development, there are two periods in preschool age when outbursts of anger may be expected. As is well known, outbursts of anger is expected in 18 months, and later between the ages of 5 and 6 years.
At the age of 18 months emerge as the child starts to move around more independent and so there is in a number of frustrating situations. As a speech is not developed sufficiently in order to child could express verbally, the children has a bouts of anger which shows its high level of frustration. In the sixth year, since development is not been completed, the child may emotionally react violently with pronounced black and white view of situations: at one point it hates, in other loves, wants to be first, to win, to be the best, difficult to tolerate criticism, punishment, and blamed for the failure of others, “says psychologists.

Guidance, but do not loosening

This not mean that the child should loosened and that the situation will continue to unfold as the child wants. The exact opposite, parents should make their emotions and the desire to separate the child from the behavior that happens then.. It is good the baby has a emotion and that something really wants or does not want. Then you should listen and demonstrate understanding for this, a child’s behavior is something that we can stop and we can forbid. Must be remembered that the children usually do not know in how many different ways can behave when they are very angry. Psychologists point that it is normal that the kids get angry, on the contrary – it is worrying if the child does not show anger. We become angry when we have something important, when we feel injustice, when we wish to defend some of their attitude or belief. As the emotions anger brings with it physical tension and energy, the need to somehow express, children (and some adults) do sometimes in an inappropriate way. Then may physically or mentally hurt themselves or others. Therefore, it is important to show the children and teach them about the options that can express anger, but at the same time no one is hurt.